Family Pow Wow With Mom

Yesterday, we gathered (all but my youngest brother, he had commitments) with mom for an update.  My sister, the orchestrator or the commander as my older brother calls her, called for the meeting.

Not seeing any agenda, I had sent out topics that I believed needing discussion and asked the others to add as they saw fit.  They thought my agenda was good and no additional topics... My older brother said he was very happy to see that I had sent out an agenda.  My sister had said she thought we'd meet at 10:30am and be done about noon, so as not to take up our whole day.

The agenda I emailed was...

Disposition of Garage

Readying House for Market

Update on Sr. Living Visits and Assisted Living

Update on Doctor's Appts

Update on Mom's progress/home health aid/care

Oh and near and dear to her... driving her car.

Well we talked, and we talked, and we talked.... then I said are we going to decide anything?  So we made a few decisions!  YAY!

We're a month behind 'schedule'.  June 1st we wanted to have the house on the market... it's not!  Nothing has been done for a month over there.  We were trying to get mom back to 'good working order'.

Garage 
Contractor was there when my sister arrived checking it out.  Our choices are to fix it or knock it down.  He believed it would be worth saving.  A two car garage is worth more than no garage.  But then again, he'd do the work and get a job.... we also asked for an estimate to knock it down and haul it away.  We are awaiting his estimates.

Readying the house for market
We've decided it's best to have one of those companies that come and clean out your house come and empty all the rooms.  Knowing we'd like to get the house up in July, we set a family deadline of June 16 to grab anything out of the house we want.  First come first served except for known items that people have stated they want.

Scheduling the hauling company the week of June 17th to empty the contents.

Update on Sr. Independent Living & Assisted Living
One word, expensive!  Not the path we want to go down at this time.  Mom decided to put getting an apartment off the table and continue along the shared living with her children.  She'll head to my sisters July 4 to spend the summer months at her place with the chance to use her pool (when someone is home, of course.)

Funny thing, when we were trying to get mom to make her mind up, my sister say, "I have no problem making my four bedroom home a four  bedroom home... getting cable in the 'tv room' and furniture for mom but mom, I am not going to rearrange my  house only to find you decide two months into it that you don't like it!"

My brother said the look on my face was priceless!  My jaw dropped and I said, "Yeah I have her at my house living out of a suitcase for that exact reason!"  OMG WTF?  I could not believe she said that.  My brother was saying that was her expressing her 'bother' feelings... mom does not want to be a bother to any of us.

It really a good thing that my younger brother was not present... he may have jumped up and pummeled her! LOL

We discussed her latest doctor appointments and future doctor appointments, how well she's progressed and how her meds and meals continue to be a concern.

As for driving, my sister told mom about the neurologist's instruction to have her pass the PennDOT Driver's Exam and she can drive.  Ugh, we'll have to see if we can get an exam scheduled or how to go about it and what's involved because she sure wants to drive again!

And here's a hint to the next post... free for all at mom's!  Another WTF moment ;)

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